“My Mommy Said!”

Having 3 kids of my own, and working and coaching kids for more than 20 years, there’s one scene that seems to play itself out with great frequency:

“My Mommy Said!”

It usually involves a kid trying to get their way.  As most of you have probably experienced, in many cases, it’s also a lie.

“One piece of cake, girls.”

“My Mommy said I could have as much as I wanted!”

Or, it’s also used to impress people or state something they wish were true:

“Oh look, what a beautiful horse!”

“My Mommy said she is going to buy me 10 horses!”

While the goal may be to get their way, to impress people, or to talk about things they wish were true (in spite of reality), In the end, it’s a lie.  Logically, it’s an appeal to authority. However, the word of the kid is only as valid as what “Mommy” has actually said.  When kids do this, it might be a bit bratty, and it’s technically a lie, but we’re pretty patient with our kids as we teach them.

For adults, it’s a bit more serious:

“The boss said you need to….”  Hmm. That’s a bit more serious. Why? Because the stakes are raised as the authority being appealed to is greater.  Mommy said you could have a second piece of cake? Sorry, you only get one piece. Mommy will understand.  The boss said I need to work this weekend? Well, I’ll work this weekend or risk being fired, I guess.

The risk increases, so I’m likely going to verify or accept it as true rather than get fired.  The downside is if the boss catches you using his authority and making things up, you’re liable to the extent of his power.  People don’t misquote the boss often because it’s so easy to verify what he actually said.  How about an even more serious example..

The King’s messenger:  Messengers have been used for centuries to relay the pronouncements (or commands) of a sovereign to his subjects.  What sane messenger would ever consider changing the message, inserting his own, or outright lying about what the King had said?  The penalty would surely be death.  The message is serious because the authority of the one who sent it is serious, and the power of the one who is being misquoted is great.

Yet, there is one greater than any King.  He has made a pronouncement and commanded his messengers to take that news to all His subjects.  Who would dare change or corrupt that message? Who would ignore the clear qualifications of a messenger and appoint themselves to deliver a message of their own?  What impudence! What infidelity!

The King?  The Lord:

For the LORD is our judge; the LORD is our lawgiver;
the LORD is our king; he will save us.
(Isaiah 33:22 ESV)

The pronouncement? The Gospel:

[5:1] Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. [2] Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. [3] Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, [4] and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, [5] and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
[6] For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. [7] For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die—[8] but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. [9] Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. [10] For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life. [11] More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.
[12] Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned—[13] for sin indeed was in the world before the law was given, but sin is not counted where there is no law. [14] Yet death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those whose sinning was not like the transgression of Adam, who was a type of the one who was to come.
[15] But the free gift is not like the trespass. For if many died through one man’s trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many. [16] And the free gift is not like the result of that one man’s sin. For the judgment following one trespass brought condemnation, but the free gift following many trespasses brought justification. [17] For if, because of one man’s trespass, death reigned through that one man, much more will those who receive the abundance of grace and the free gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man Jesus Christ.
[18] Therefore, as one trespass led to condemnation for all men, so one act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all men. [19] For as by the one man’s disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man’s obedience the many will be made righteous. [20] Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, [21] so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

(Romans 5 ESV)

Instructions to the Messengers?

And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”

(Matthew 28:18-20 ESV)

Priority of the Message? First

Now I would remind you, brothers, of the gospel I preached to you, which you received, in which you stand, and by which you are being saved, if you hold fast to the word I preached to you—unless you believed in vain.
For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures,
(1 Corinthians 15:1-4 ESV)

What about Messengers bringing other messages?

I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting him who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel—not that there is another one, but there are some who trouble you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach to you a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again: If anyone is preaching to you a gospel contrary to the one you received, let him be accursed.
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

(Galatians 1:6-10 ESV)

So when your pastor speaks on behalf of God, “God says!” or “God wants you to know..” he’d better do so with an open bible, quoting chapter and verse.  To do anything less, to say “God wants” without scriptural support, to put words in God’s mouth is the very definition of taking the Lord’s name in vain.  (And you always thought it was about cussing?)  What impudent, unfaithful messenger would hijack the King’s message and replace it with his own!  And you? Why would you allow someone to give you commands “from the King” without verifying what He has recorded in His word?

And your Pastor, why would the change the message?

1. They aren’t messengers of the King.  If you don’t believe there are very gifted speakers/entertainers/stand up comedians who can borrow the language of the christian faith, hijack the message,  and draw a large crowd you’re naive.  In the end, you’ve been entertained, he’s been well paid, and the gospel has been abandoned.  Your church is huge? Your pastor writes books and teaches seminars? The band rocks? If you are hearing something other than the gospel, it’s not a church and your messenger is accursed according to God the Holy Spirit as recorded by the Apostle Paul.  That’s pretty serious.

2. He’s like the kid who says “My Mommy Said!” when she said no such thing. Maybe it’s an appeal to what the crowds want to hear. I can guarantee that if you’re getting 1 or 2 verses, not read in their context, it’s so he can hijack the narrative and make it say whatever he wants. I can assure you that Paul never wrote about how to pray audaciously.  Jesus never stood at the door of your heart knocking to come in, and God has not commanded you to speak things into existence. Don’t believe me? Take the verse your pastor just preached, write it down, and go back and read the CHAPTER.  Does it have anything to do with what you were told God said? Be honest, there’s a great deal at stake here!

(See the difference? The quote on the left? God didn’t say that. Ever. It’s not in scripture. In fact, what God has actually revealed about how to pray stands in polar opposite. Audacious? Intimidating? Give us our bread, forgive us our sins, lead us not into temptation. Not so audacious is it? But we buy into it because it appeals to our pride. The hardest thing in the world for us as humans is to simply repent and receive.)

An example of this that I’ll never forget is my young nephew, walking into the dining room and announcing “My Mom said I could go!”  What he didn’t know is that his mother was around the corner in the kitchen.  His mother responded, “I said WHAT?!?” My nephew burst into tears. He knew he had lied, he knew his mother had heard him, and he knew he would be held accountable.

Someday these messengers will stand before the King, accountable to one whose authority they have misused. It’s bad enough that they have not taught the full council of God’s word and have intermixed pop-psychology, moralism, and politics.. but to actually attribute words, and commands “God wants you to…” to God which are not in His word?  They should tremble at the thought.

So, the next time you hear “God said”, make sure it’s legit.  Here’s a good start: If you hear the phrases “I believe” at the beginning of your pastor’s sentence, pay attention. “I believe God wants…” be very, very vigilant here. Open your bible, see if scripture says this IN CONTEXT.  Read the CHAPTER!  And if it’s “God wants you to _____ so he can begin to _____.” Run.  Your “messenger” has hijacked the mission.

Would love to hear your feedback!

Marc

Physician misdiagnoses dying patients, patients say “He’s great!”

A well known physician recently misdiagnosed hundreds (perhaps thousands) of those under his care over the last several years.  Each of the patients suffer from a disease which is fatal in 100% of cases without prescription of a well known and 100% effective treatment.  And yet the Doctor is completely unapologetic and his patients fawn over him.  His practice is bursting at the seams and he is writing books and lecturing other physicians on his methodology.  Relatively few of his patients seek the proper disgnosis and treatment, even after being informed of their predicament.

How do you feel about that physician? How negligent is he? Is he qualified to treat patients? Is he responsible for their death?

The physician reported that he’s “not really into medical terms, and doesn’t want to weigh his patients down with treatment theories and talk about illness.”   “People know that they’re sick, they don’t need me telling them what’s wrong with them.  I just try to love on them and help them see the best in themselves.  If they’re trying to feel better and get healthy, I think that’s really what’s important in the end.  My patients have told me, and I believe them, that they know they’re sick and have made a decision to get well, so they’re just beginning their wellness journey by living each day trying to be as healthy as they can. It’s not really my place to say one treatment is better than the other, I’m just not into that. I prefer to just love on my patients and encourage them to get better.”

Wait, what? No, “Doctor”, they’re dying from their affliction. Every single one of them. And instead of telling them what the medical journals clearly state, and showing them the 100% effective treatment for their malady, you’re coddling them into the grave.  You’re a lunatic and their blood is on your hands. Any judge would certainly find you guilty of your negligence.

What if I told you the malady was sin, that all men are guilty before God, and that the only remedy is to understand the gravity of that malady, repent and believe on Christ.  Any other diagnosis, any other ‘treatment’, no matter how you ‘feel’ about it, is fatal.  There are no exceptions here.

Diagnosis:

The ‘disease’ (sin) is well described in scripture:

1. Sin isn’t only something you do it’s a state of being. You aren’t a sinner because you sin, you sin because you are a sinner.  Whether you believe you are born in sin (Psalm 51:5) or you believe that we are condemned only by acts of sin is irrelevant in light of  Romans 3:23

For there is no distinction: for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
(Romans 3:22-23 ESV)

2. 100% of humanity (yes, that includes you) are condemned by sin. That’s the malady, the illness, the disease, the curse. You have tested SIN-positive. Scripture is clear on that.

Prognosis:

100% fatal:

1. Everyone is sinful both by nature and by action (Romans 3:23), so what’s the prognosis, Doctor?

Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned—

(Romans 5:12 ESV)

For the wages of sin is death
(Romans 6:23 ESV)

That’s as serious as serious gets. You’ve tested SIN-positive. No doubt about it. And, you’re going to die. But it’s far worse than even that; Your sin isn’t simply an illness, it’s an affront, a challenge, a rebellion against a just and holy God.

Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient.  Ephesians 5:6

 

The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness… Romans 1:18

How do we get this wrong?

1. Presenting sin as “making mistakes” or “falling short of God’s best for you”.  Let me put this as bluntly as I can. That type of preaching is cowardice.  It’s born out of fear that we’ll offend people by telling them they stand under the just wrath of God.  Sin is far, far more serious that “missing out on God’s best for your life.”  What drivel. That’s like saying terminal cancer is missing out on trips to Disney World.  You’re guilty, and that guilt will result in God’s wrath being poured out on you.  I know, that message isn’t popular or PC. It’s so “old school”.  But it’s the only message we’ve been given.  To water this down is to misdiagnose the illness and send people on their way without feeling the weight of their condemnation.

2. By presenting sin simply as “things we do wrong” that we need to stop doing.  This is pure law, and it focuses us on our own behaviors.  Sin isn’t something I just “do”, it’s something I am, it’s in every fibre of my being.  I need a rebirth, not a remodel.  By confusing this message, we saddle people with “do better” instead of repentance.

The Treatment:

(Please understand that I’m not flippantly labeling Christ as a “treatment”, I’m simply using an illustration here. I also understand that the limitations of this analogy could be viewed as Pelagian. That is not my intent. The bible clearly states that regeneration precedes faith; that God opens our eyes to the nature of our sin and His holiness, which allows us to respond in faith.)

To “get well” you must first admit that you are sick and in need of a physician.  No amount of positive thinking, or “living well” is going to solve your fatal disease.  You are saved by treatment.  While we are clearly called to have faith, it is not our faith which saves us.  Faith in your faith is not the same as faith in Christ.  We are saved by Christ through faith.  It is Christ who saves, not our faith.

1. Repentance and Faith:

Repentance is more than just “changing directions”, it’s more than just “feeling bad” that you’ve sinned. In Acts 2, after Peter blasts the crowd with a clear presentation of the gospel, and their sin, they respond.

Now when they heard this they were cut to the heart, and said to Peter and the rest of the apostles, “Brothers, what shall we do?” And Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.
(Acts 2:37-38 ESV)

Note that they were first brought low with the weight of their sin. They got it.  They were “cut to the heart”. Peter then told them to repent.  While being “cut to the heart” and understanding their sin was crucial, it was not in itself, repentance.

I love how John Piper handles this:

“Repentance is not just regret. They had already been cut to the heart (v. 3). And now Peter says, “Repent!” So repentance is more than feeling sorry. It means following through on that conviction and turning around—changing your mind and your heart so that you are no longer at odds with God but in sync with God. Jesus spoke to Paul in Acts 26:18 about this “turning” that leads to forgiveness and gave Paul his commission with these words, “I send you to open their eyes, that they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins.” There it is. That is repentance: turning from darkness to light and from Satan to God. It is a reversal of the direction of your life—toward God.”

In other words, “Repentance means first of all, to acknowledge our sins, to be truly sorry for them. This “godly sorrow” comes from the Holy Spirit convicting us with God’s law.

But the Bible also uses the work of repentance in a broader sense to include faith in Jesus our Savior. This faith is produced by the Holy Spirit, who convinces us through the Gospel that our sins are forgiven for the sake of Jesus, who lived, died and rose again for us.

Put those two concepts together and you have repentance in its fullest sense. (Jesus told His disciples in Luke 24:47 that repentance and forgiveness of sins will be preached in His name to all nations.)

According to the Bible, those who are truly sorry for their sins and trust in Jesus as their Savior also want to turn away from their sins, intending with the help of the Holy Spirit not to keep on living a life of sin. If we want to keep on sinning, we need to ask ourselves if we have really repented. However, we are weak human beings and although we do not want to commit the same sins again and again, we may sometimes fall into sin out of weakness.

Whenever we sin, we know (as John says) that “if we confess our sins, [God] is faithful and just and will forgive our sins” for the sake of Jesus our Savior (1 John 1:9). If repentance becomes a “game” with God and we don’t really want or intend to stop committing a certain sin (say stealing), and we go on stealing, living always in that sin of stealing, then we place ourselves in grave spiritual danger. We need to ask that God the Holy Spirit to give us the power to stop committing that sin and trust Him to help us fight against it.

Worldly sorrow is the kind of sorrow Judas Iscariot had, which caused him to commit suicide. It was a self-centered remorse and despair that wrongly concluded that all was lost in this life, that there was no hope, that there was nothing God could do. Second Cor. 7:10 says that this kind of sorrow brings death. But godly sorrow is true sorrow over sin accompanied by trust in Jesus for forgiveness. This is the kind of sorrow Peter had after he denied Jesus, and King David had after he committed adultery and murder (Psalm 51). Godly sorrow leads to life and salvation, because it includes faith in Jesus Christ.

As you can see, the Bible clearly states the diagnosis (sin), the extent (complete), the prognosis (100% fatality), and the treatment (repentance and faith in the atoning work of Christ).  To loop back to the medical analogy we used earlier, if your “Doctor” misses these steps, he’s guilty of malpractice.  I don’t care how big your megachurch is, how well he speaks, how many books he’s written, how awesome the music and kids programs are, if you didn’t hear the categories of sin, repentance, and faith in Christ through the gospel, you got something else.

You likely heard the purpose-driven gospel which states the problem as: “Missing out on the great plan God has for your life.”

The solution is to: “Make a decision for Christ” and “begin to live out the dream he has for you”.  You’ll hear a great deal about steps you must take, which include “Stepping out in faith”.

The problem?  You can have thousands of people make a decision for a better life, to “birth” the dream god has for them, and to “change the world”…. and not a one of them has been brought to repentance for their sins and trusted Christ’s atoning work for them.

Yes, the smiling, relevant preacher has negligently misdiagnosed the problem, and those people have not come to salvation in Christ.  Call them “decisions for Christ” if you like, but if they haven’t been “cut to the heart” over their sins against God, what are they making their “decision” for? Their better life? Better family? To begin to discover the “greatness inside of them”?  Maybe, who knows, but it’s not the biblical gospel, which is the only gospel which leads to salvation.   God have mercy on the modern church. The impending judgement and wrath of God will be poured out on those who have not repented and believed on Christ and we’re not warning them. Instead, they’re being told that the problem to be solved is not living their “best life now.”  Our hearts should be breaking over this. Pray that people who have “made decisions” in seeker-driven churches come to hear the gospel of Christ for the forgiveness of sins.

Marc