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  1. Dear Marc, I am a mother of two awesome young men who have done exactly what your blog states “Left the church”. My heart breaks, as I too have questioned God and asked, “where did I go wrong”? Can you share with me, in greater detail, what you mean by “the church not sharing the Law with the youth” but basically sugar coating our faith. Also, as a mother who desperately wants her children to have a relationship with God, what do I do for them now. My oldest tells me he does not believe in God at all. For the past few years we agreed to disagree but today I feel I might be doing him and injustice by not listening to him and letting him tell me shy he does not believe. My question now is, maybe he never believed? What are your thoughts, suggestions, or concerns. Thanks for posting your 10 reasons why youth stop attending church. Looking forward to hearing from you. Diana

    1. Diana,

      As a father of 3 daughter who are still at home, I can only imagine how that must feel. I’ll be in prayer for your family.
      As for church sharing the law with the youth, in a nutshell i’m saying that the youth must be confronted with their full condemnation under the law (and their inability to keep it) and come to trust in Christ as their only hope. What we get in many “seeker” churches is law-light, a “do these things” which are, in effect, marginalize the law. People think they are “getting it” and there is no need to repent (nor is there a call to repentance).

      In the end, we cannot make others believe, nor are we called to that conversion which is the work of the holy spirit. My call in this article is to preach the gospel.

      I hope this was helpful!

      Marc

  2. My Wife and I need prayer. I think this is the place to ask by what I have read. Early last year we left a mega-church because the messages were so watered down with feel-good-about-yourself sermons with no preaching of sin, repentance, the blood of Jesus. A seeker friendly church. We started going to a church where the preacher was continuing to preach salvation messages every Sunday and Wednesday. We have however noticed a definite shift to becoming a “Transformational Church”. We notice the similar path that our mega church had taken years ago. We do not want to go this way. We need a small Bible-believing church to attend that preaches the Gospel. No compromises Thanks

  3. Dear Marc,
    As a homeschool mom of 20 years I really appreciated your article. Just let me tell you that the reformed/Calvinist theology is what drove several kids away from church as they matured. Even though we were not of that persuasion my son nearly left his faith just realizing that many of his friends believed God created many for hell. !!! Anyway, loved your article but disagree that teaching doctrine at a young age will prevent church abandonment – it may/will do the opposite.

    1. Louise,

      Thank you for the encouraging words! As for the “Calvinism” fear, I wouldn’t lose any sleep over that. (And believing that God “created people for hell” would be rejected by nearly every “Calvinist” I’ve ever known) 😉

      1. The disdain for Calvinism is a misunderstanding of the idea that God created some people for hell and others for heaven. Whereas, the Doctrines of Grace, (insert Calvinism if you will) the response to the teaching of Arminianism, assert that ALL of mankind is in the same lump condemned to hell. But it is ONLY by God’s electing grace that according to His eternal counsel and providence He chose out of that condemned mass (who were by nature children of wrath) those for eternal life for His own praise and glory (Eph. 1-2). Since we are ALL conceived and born in sin (Ps. 14: 2-3 & Ps. 51:5) and there is no one who seeks God, (Rom. 3: 9-12) rather, He seeks us by His grace, there will likewise be no one in hell who was unjustly or prematurely sent there. God had every Divine right to immediately condemn Adam & Eve to eternal hell following the fall, but it was His grace that prevented it in order to bring about the Covenant of Redemption appointed in eternity past. And this same grace goes on today as He continues to call His elect to faith. This understanding of “Calvinism” demonstrates the mercies of God far more than any “injustice” on His part. Romans 9 is clear on this point.

  4. I’m happy to hear you are not in their circles. 🙂 Thank you again for your very insightful article/study and for allowing the great discussion following. You are addressing a serious issue and do it very well.

    1. Hi Louise,
      I had meant to leave the above comment under your previous heading but inserted under Marc’s last response to you. I hope it helps to clear up the uncomfortable understanding you’ve had regarding Calvinism. It took me a while to understand the actual historical outworking of this doctrine, and now can embrace its marvelous summary of Scripture.

  5. Marc,
    Heard your article about the reasons teens leave church, on fighting for the faith podcast. It really struck home for me. I have four sons. Two are young adults now and are in church. My other two are a junior and senior in high school. I am more worried for them. Are there resources you would recommend I use at home that could help? I thought we were doing well at teaching them the biblical precepts, but I’m not so sure anymore. They are bright young men, accepted Jesus as their savior when they were younger, but are now asking questions about things I thought they were solid with. With them going to college soon, I wondered what I could use to help strengthen them. I consider my boys smarter at this age than I was, so maybe I have simplified things too much. Sorry so long. Thanks for the blogpost .

  6. Marc,
    I am the Director of Discipleship for the Assemblies of God. I would like to use your blog “Top 10 Reasons our Kids Leave Church.” could you assist me with this? You can contact me on my email. Thank you so much!! Great article!!!!!

  7. Thanks for this post. I myself left the evangelical church–for the Orthodox church. Of course now I’m rasing my kids in it, I have no idea if they’ll stick around, but at least it won’t be because of any of your ten excellent reasons. Outstanding, thank you for articulating what I haven’t been able to for many years.

  8. I like your Top 10 reasons kids leave the church piece. You sound passionate and articulate. I appreciate this and from your tone it seems that you are not just pontificating, but, I am curious as to what you hope to happen. What are your goals? And do you want to remain semi-anonymous? I only ask this because of curiosity and the fact that you did reach out with this to the millions of others on facebook. Feal free to email me. A fellow believer in Christ….!

    1. My hope is that we return to our primary charge of proclaiming the gospel of repentance and faith in Christ for the forgiveness of sins, and that we make disciples of our youth, teaching them the fundamentals of the faith. I haven’t offered a counter “method” because the *how* we do that may look different in different environments. (And frankly, our quest for the next, better, method is part of the pragmatic problem to begin with)

      As for being semi-anonymous, I’ve been on the radio as well as podcasts and video, so I’m not being intentionally mysterious.
      I have avoided speaking much to which “tribe” I come from to avoid being discounted due to issues outside of the core message of repentance and faith in Christ for the forgiveness of sins.

      For those that *need* the categories:

      I’m confessional and reformed. I confess the Apostles, Nicene, and Athanasian creeds. No weird theological skeletons in the closet. You don’t have to worry about me throwing out goofy end-times predictions, naming the anti-christ, selling prayer cloths, or weighing in on the latest political issues.

      Marc

      1. Marc:
        My 26 year-old niece shared your 10 reasons on her Facebook newsfeed and that is how I came to your blog. Inspired is the word I would use. May I add one ministry that you will find I think to be in harmony with what you are saying? It is Ray Comfort’s ministry called Living Waters / The Way of the Master. He has a daily webcast along with several publications on reaching the world with the Law, then offering the Gospel.

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